Generalizations to reinforce something positive is appreciable. It could be like having an active lifestyle will lower the risk of illnesses, helping others will give happiness and so on.
But recently I came across something called “Working moms have more successful daughter and more caring sons, Harvard Business School study says” I understand that they are trying to make the working moms feel good and not feel guilty about working outside or entrusting someone else with child care. Which is in one way correct as women should be free of any mental burden to pursue her dreams and passion.
But such statements makes no sense to me. Its like saying that working mothers have more brown curtains in their home than stay at home moms. I mean it all depends upon her choice, a women might put brown curtains regardless of what job she is into.
So in the same way children differ the way they are raised. Stay at home moms, working full time or part time outside is not something that is going to affect child upbringing. What if a stay at home mom involves her kids in her daily household chores and a working mom who just prefers to have a one on one time with her kid after coming back from work and assign chores to some other person. What if a stay at home mom’s daughter watches her mom working 24/7 and still goes out to volunteer? It will definitely make her daughter more confident & hardworking and sons more caring. On the other hand if a working outside mom is also communicating through her actions that women can achieve anything, then that will create a positive impact. Instead if she is just stressed about everything and uses too much of screen time to finish of chores then that will have a complete different result than what the Harvard Business study said. And same is the scenario for stay at home moms, if she is just caught up in her own turmoil and not being actively engaged with her kids then that will have some serious ill effects.
So according to me, such kind of meaningless research is a stumbling block for women. World is trying to change gender bias and in the process sometimes they just end up pressurizing women even more. Women should be left free to make her own choice. If she is staying home to raise kids, don’t blame her for not having a career and if she is working outside she should not be belittled as a mother. Every role is important and deserves respect without any bias.
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